Archive | April, 2014

“If God Seems Distant”

18 Apr

Last year was a bad year for me. I went through a lot of different things. I would pray, but instead of things getting better they only seemed to get worse. I took my eyes off of Jesus. I let Satan make me think God didn’t care, and that He forgot me. I saw a saying on a church awhile back. The saying was, “If God seems distant, who wandered?” Short and to the point.
Don’t wander away from God. I can promise you from personal experience. You will regret it. God gave me the words to write about my experience. Please don’t follow my example. If you are going through a hard time, find some godly women to rally around you and pray for and with you.

“Letting Yourself Wander”

The road is long and hard,
You ask, “Where are you Lord?”
You wonder what happened along the way,
You can’t even seem to pray.
You are so sadden,
By what has happened.
You went outside of God’s will,
You can’t even believe it’s real.
You left Jesus in the dust,
And sin caused you to lust.
You never thought that you would go this far,
But here you are.
You don’t realize you are playing with fire,
And the consequences are dire.
You feel all alone,
Because your life has become undone.
Sin may seem “fun” for awhile,
Eventually, you lose your reason to smile.
You feel dead inside,
You just want to find a place to hide.
After all is said and done,
You try to find your way back to the Son.
You ask others to pray,
To help you find your way.
The only thing that will help,
Is for you to die to yourself.
It takes awhile for it all to kick in,
You repent and ask Jesus to remove all of the sin.
You are trying your best,
To move ahead.
It’s a hard lesson learned,
When you play with sin, you will always get burned.

By: Christina R. Blaney

1 Peter 5:8 ESV …Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.

It’s like I heard someone say awhile back, “Satan doesn’t want those in the world. He already has them. He’s after those that claim Jesus as their Lord and Savior. That statement is very true. Stay on guard. Make sure you have on the armor of God every second of every day. (Ephesians 6). I will tell you, God WILL discipline you, and it is painful. (Deuteronomy 8:5; Psalm 102:10).

Living With Depression

3 Apr

I know a lot of you know that I struggle with depression from time to time. Here lately, it’s been pretty severe. I don’t want to go anywhere. I cry all of the time. I’ve caused Tracy a lot of grief because of how severe my depression is right now.

These are some of the things I’ve been experiencing on a daily basis. There are times it’s hard for me to concentrate. I tend to forget what I’m doing or where I put something. I feel a lot of shame and guilt. A lot of crying. I say things that I don’t mean.

Tracy & I have been blessed enough to have a couple to try to walk through this with us. I know they are very concerned for me. Because I’ve said things like I didn’t deserve to live or I didn’t want to live. I have another young lady that is trying to help me.

This couple has asked Tracy how to help me. Poor Tracy doesn’t even know how to help me. Well, I am going to tell you what helps me.
1. Prayer-pray for me; pray with me
2. Remind me that God will see me through this
3. I need a lot of love & support.
4. I need women that are compassionate.
5. Sometimes, I need a shoulder to cry on.
6. It probably wouldn’t hurt to try to get me out of the house or come by and visit.
7. Send me scriptures or Bible based songs that remind me of
God’s love.
8. Most of the time, I just need someone to listen.

Some depression is genetic. Some is brought on by grief or loss of some kind. Some is brought on by some type of abuse. Some of it is postpartum depression. Twice as many women get it as men.

The steps a depressed person has to take is to take of the “masks.” Don’t hide what you’re going through. Get to a doctor as soon as possible. Like me, it’s usually a matter of changing my meds in some fashion.

A depressed person needs to develop regular sleeping habits. They need to maintain a regular schedule of activity. They need to be actively involved in church functions and accept invitations to be with others. Eliminate stress. Set aside quiet time for relaxation. (use some deep, slow breathing). Eat balanced, nutritional meals, avoid caffeince, alcohol, salt, and junk food. Stay away from sugar. Get regular exercise. Spend time in the sun. If it’s raining; I’ll open up as many blinds as I can so I can see the outside.

These are some other things a depressed person can do: listen to inspirational and uplifting music; keep environment bright and cheerful, maintain clean, uncluttered environment, clean home of objects associated with demonic occults; resist long periods of time on the telephone; avoid watching too much television; set small attainable goals everyday; look for something you can do for someone every day.

Do’s and Don’ts for family and friends:
Don’t say “You shouldn’t feel that way.” Instead say, “I care about what you are feeling.”
-Ask, “Would you like to share your feelings with me?’
-Say, “If every you want to talk, I’m here for you.”
(Proverbs 20:5)

Don’t say: “You must eat. Think of all the starving children in Africa.”
Say: “Even if we’re not hungry, we both need to eat. A car needs gas for energy-we both need food for energy.”
-Bring nutritious foods to their home.
-Take them out to eat or a picnic.
-Encourage healthy eating habits.
( 1 Corinthians 6:13)

Don’t say: “You need to quit taking that medicine.”
Say: “Not all medicines work the same for everyone. I’ll go with you to get a thorough medical evaluation so that the doctor will make sure the medicine is for you.
-Talk specifically to a competent doctor who specializes in depression. Usually a psychiatrist.
-Don’t be afraid to get a second opinion.
(Proverbs 15:22)

Don’t say: “You just need to pray more.”
Say: “I’m praying for you, and I’m going to keep praying.”
-Pray with them, and tell them you are praying for them.
-Ask specifically, “How can I pray for you today.”
(1 Samuel 12:23)

Don’t say: “You need to read your Bible more.”
Say: “There are several passages in the Bible that have given me much hope, and I’ve written them out for you. May I share them with you?”
-Give them hope filled scriptures to read 3 times a day. (Jeremiah 29:11; Psalm 130:5)
-Help them memorize scripture. (Philippians 4:6-8; 4:13; 4:19)
(Psalm 119:147)

Don’t say: “You need to get more involved in church.”
Say: “I’m involved in a church where I’ve been learning how meaningful life can be.
-Invite them to church with you.
-Involve them in a small group Bible study.
(Hebrews 10:25)

Don’t say: “Snap out of it. Get over it.”
Say: “I’m going to stick with you, and we’ll get through this together.”
-Admit, “I don’t know everything I wish I knew, but I’m willing to help.”
-State. “If you can’t hold on to God, hold on to me because I’m holding on to God.”
(Proverbs 18:24)

I got these above suggestions from a book that June Hunt wrote about depression. June Hunt is a Biblical counselor. She also has a radio show; “That is named Hope For the Heart.”

Please take these suggestions and help a family member or friend out that is living with depression.

“Perfection; The World’s Definition”

3 Apr

As I read “Every Woman’s Battle” more, I realize more and more things that impressed upon our minds as women. It all starts at a very young age. I believe it starts with fairy tales and Barbie.

I have been thinking about fairy tales and Barbie since early this morning. I realized that the only ones that are rescued or get married are physically perfect in every way. They are skinny, have beautiful hair, and a beautiful complexion without a blemish.

Be it Cinderella, Snow White, Rapunzel, and even Barbie. They all are saved by their prince. Everything goes perfectly in these cartoons that we all grew up watching.

How come one of Cinderella’s step sisters couldn’t have fit the shoe? The book and the cartoon portray these young women as ugly. Why couldn’t Snow White’s Prince Charming be just a regular guy that’s a hard worker? Not one that has a kingdom at his disposal. Why are Barbie and Ken so perfectly made? Come on, real people don’t look like Barbie and Ken.

The more I think about it; the more I realize the image we are impressing upon the little girls in our lives. I’m even at fault. I’ve done the same thing. It doesn’t matter how young they are. One thing I’ve learned from teaching children at church, their minds are very impressionable.

Do we really want the girls in our lives to have a warped image of theirselves and happiness? Do we want to have the perception that life is perfect? No matter what, they will live happily ever after?

I can’t believe how we are putting the images in our little girls’ minds. This is not beneficial to them. This does not give them God’s image of the way they should be. We need to teach them that we all come in different shapes and sizes, and there is NOTHING wrong with that.

We need to teach them they aren’t perfect. They are perfect in the eyes of us and God. The world may not think they’re “perfect,” but we are supposed to teach them God’s standard of beauty and not the world’s We all know that God doesn’t look at the outside. (1 Samuel 16:7).

We need to teach our little girls about the women in the Bible. We should teach them how spiritually beautiful they can be. We need to teach them what matters is the condition of their heart, soul, and mind. Not necessarily the condition of their bodies.

Every time I see a painting of Jesus and the children that were with Him, I really think those paintings are misconceptions. First of all, these children had been playing in the dust and sand of the desert. Second of all, Jesus spoke a lot to the poor. I don’t imagine them with “perfect” clothes. I imagine their clothes are torn and tattered. I imagine their faces being dirty. I even imagine them being a little sweaty from running and playing.

I also don’t believe Jesus went through the crowd picking the most “perfect” children with the “perfect” clothes. Jesus didn’t care what someone looked like. After all, He did raise Lazarus from the dead. Can you imagine what Lazarus looked like after being in the tomb for 4 days? I believe his body would have had some decay on it. But once Jesus raised him, Lazarus was like new, physically.

So, I believe those of us that claim to be godly women, should be more aware of what we are trying to convey to the little girls in our lives. What message are we trying to send them? Instead of them watching one of these cartoons, we should read a bible story to them. Especially stories like Rahab, the Samaritan woman, the woman caught in adultery, Mary Magdalene; just to name a few. We need to let them know they can still be used by God even if they don’t look like the world. They need to look the way God created them.

By: Christina R. Blaney